When you’re single, the absence of a partner can sometimes lead to the idea that taking care of your body and mind isn’t as important—after all, there’s no one regularly seeing your body, except you. But maintaining an intimate connection with your body's sexual needs is essential regardless of your relationship status.
Why it’s Important to Explore Your Sexual Needs:
1. Self-Care is the Foundation for Your Well-Being
Self-care isn’t just a buzzword; it’s a fundamental aspect of living a healthy, balanced life. When you’re single, you have the opportunity to focus solely on yourself! This means prioritizing activities that rejuvenate you, such as exercise, balanced nutrition, restful sleep, and mindfulness practices. By taking care of your own needs, you build a solid foundation for physical and emotional well-being that can lead to a more fulfilling life.
2. Building a Healthier Relationship with Yourself
Being attuned to your body reinforces your sense of independence. When you understand and respond to what your body requires, you become more self-reliant and mindful. It fosters that sense of control and confidence that can be beneficial in all areas of your life, from managing stress to pursuing personal goals. It’s about understanding and embracing your unique needs, desires, and boundaries, and treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a loved one.
3. Preparing for Future Relationships
Being attuned to your body’s needs can also positively impact your future relationships. By developing these self-care habits, you enter future relationships from a place of health and stability. This means you’re more likely to engage in healthier dynamics, set boundaries, and communicate effectively. You are also more likely to attract healthy partners. It’s about being a complete individual who brings their best self into any relationship.
4. Creating a Routine That Works for You
Single life offers the freedom to establish routines that are perfectly tailored to your needs. Without the compromise that often accompanies a relationship, you have the opportunity to design a schedule that supports your well-being. Whether it’s a morning yoga practice, an evening meditation, or a weekly meal prep, creating a routine that aligns with your body’s needs helps you stay grounded and focused. You will also begin to feel more accustomed to creating and sticking to routines you make!
5. Embracing Your Journey
Ultimately, keeping in touch with your body’s needs when you’re single is about embracing your personal journey. It’s a chance to invest in yourself, to explore what makes you feel good, and to appreciate the process of self-discovery. Life is a journey of growth and self-improvement, and paying attention to your body’s needs is a crucial part of that journey.
Your Body is a Temple, Worship it!
Maintaining a connection with your body’s needs is absolutely vital, no matter your relationship status. It’s about honouring yourself, building a strong foundation for your well-being, and preparing for whatever life may bring. So, take a moment to check in with yourself—your body will thank you for it.
How to Get to Know Yourself Intimately:
1. Masturbation
It's the best way to figure out what you enjoy! It may feel new and odd, but try to look at it like you would massage a sore muscle, or stretching to relieve tightness. The goal doesn't have to be a climax either, it can simply be an exploration, starting and ending whenever you choose.
2. Fantasize
Often our inner desires come to us in the form of our imaginations. A certain theme, texture, artwork, or music, can all invoke fantasies and the build up of tantric energy. This method doesn't take much effort at all - just let you mind wander without judgement. Steer your imagination in whatever direction serves your desires.
3. Adult Entertainment
Exploring erotic stories, movies/videos, viewing a burlesque or strip show, or playing an erotic video game can all help fuel your fantasies! There is a category and fetish for everything available with a few clicks nowadays. But it's important to realize that these are made for entertainment, and do not accurately represent real sex.
4. Sex Toys
Toys are a great place to start for the curious and adventurous! There is the trusty dildo and the reliable bullet vibrator, that most folks go for. Sex toys can get creative, come in all different shapes, sizes, and colours, and have different functions. One new toy that many vulva owners swear by is the rose bud, a small suction device for clitoral stimulation, mimicking cunnilingus. Another popular toy for vulva owners is a rabbit vibrator, which stimulates the clitoris while offering penetration.
Whatever you decide to explore, know that there is no shame in getting to know your sexual needs, and it will only make you a better partner, and healthier person, in the long run.
As a relationship guide for women and LGBTQ+ folks, I’m here to help you through the issues in your intimate life. Book a session here, or message me and let’s chat!
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